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On Dating
Here is the first of a series on improving your chances in the dating world
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Welcome to the ISBN newsletter for the last week of Feb, 2009. Get ready for our launch party and take a look at the stats on those links. Then, come back here and read this.
Something to think about.
Ok, so we know that 42 percent of the population of the USA is single. Its fun to look at stats, but how does that help you being single? Numbers, its how you look at them and how you use them to your favor.
Now, here is something that a lot of single people don’t realize about dating. Sure the nice car, killer perfume or awesome dress may land you a hot date. But in the long run, after many dates with the wrong people, there are two factors that weigh the heaviest in your long term chances of finding the right person. The numbers show there are 92 million singles so that means roughly half of that in your sights. This means if you use the right approach and attitude, you are sure to find someone. Here are some ideas, let me share them with you.
Attitude and approach – how are yours?
The dating game, a lot of the time, has to do with attitude and approach. Sure, there is chemistry and romance and all that, but having observed singles now in many different countries and watching how those who get more dates and have more FUN dating (as they say half the fun of a trip is getting there!) its easy to see what factors increase the chances of you finding Mr. or Mrs. right. For example If you sit in your room and never go out, or when you do, avoid bathing, swear on dates and recount how you never find anyone you like, odds are you will never find anyone. This is an extreme example of course. But it illustrates how important attitude and approach are.
Let’s look at these individually and see how we can leverage these to best increase the odds of you finding the right person. I’ll look more closely in this newsletter about attitude and only briefly touch on approach. Don’t worry, we will go over a lot of topics in the future to help you find the right person, but its key we make sure you have the best possible footing to make future dates and situations work in your favor. Ok, ready?
Attitude
Attitude is everything when it comes to attaining goals or anything worthwhile. People who don’t give up and keep a good attitude in the face of adversity are hard to stop. Why not apply this to dating? How? Don’t get depressed when you go out on a date and it doesn’t work. Statistically, you are closer to meeting the right person after going on a date with the wrong person. Learn what you can from that date. Remember its a case of looking at the glass half full or half empty. I know its easy for me to say, after you blew your whole paycheck on the gal who stood you up or never called you back. Or you waited all night for the guy who promised to meet you.
Know this: its how you can handle rejection, rudeness and adversity–when it happens to you–that will determine how soon you find the right person. Why? Here’s just one example, imagine you are upset for days after that last bad date incident and stop dating for a few weeks, or turn down that person you met at the store who invited you out for a drink. So what if THAT WAS the right person and you decided not to go out with them or you never returned their call?
When it comes to dating,you should understand, no matter what, it’s a NUMBERS GAME. As any salesman knows, you have to give each lead or potential customer the same sales pitch as the one before with out prejudging or giving less than your all. In other words, if you let what has happened on the last date affect your next one, you are reducing the chances of finding the right one.
Chin up & smile!
People like happy people. Happy people attract happy people. So, if you let the last date affect you on your next date or recall your opinion of how guys are who wear blue are losers and so you seem upset when you meet your next date: and he is wearing blue, you are hurting your chances by causing them to see the unhappy side of your personality and not giving the full measure of receptivity they (and you) deserve when you first meet them.
So, in a word, go out, be happy. ENJOY dates, have fun, laugh make a friend. If you act yourself and don’t put so much weight on impressing that person, the true you comes out and, if it’s a match, it will be hard to hide. So it’s the only date you got in the whole month? Don’t worry, we will work on getting more dates! But let’s finish this first.
Perseverance, the name of the game
Don’t give up. If you don’t feel like getting up and meeting the person you promised to meet for a coffee, just do it. You never know. Once I had an argument with a gal I had been dating for several days, things went from bad to worse and, at the end of the date we said ‘adios’ and I walked away.. let’s say upset.
As I was walking down the street, mad at myself, I saw a very attractive gal walking across the street. I thought, forget it, I’m done dating for awhile. After 10 seconds (Ok, so I’m a guy!) I don’t know what hit me but I thought, why not? So I ran back, crossed the street and put on my best smile and asked that gal out. You should have seen the look on her face! You know, she was so impressed that I walked up and flat asked her out and didn’t use any cheesy pick-up line that we stood there and talked for AN HOUR on that street corner at 1am. And guess what, we ended up dating!
Now its a crazy story, but its totally true. You just can never tell when it will happen, as Louis Pasteur once said, “Chance favors the mind that is prepared. He was talking about scientific
discovery, but in dating, chance favors the attitude that is prepared, the good attitude. So, like the shoe company says, when it comes to going out, JUST DO IT!
You never know
Im my many years of dating, the gal that I thought was the right one, stood me up and the one I thought was a no go… proved me wrong and turned out to be a girlfriend. It’s happened just too often. As a salesman of many years; never, never, never prejudge a person until you meet them and get to know them. When going out for the first time, Murphy’s Law reigns supreme and they always know someone you do, lived in the same town you did or love the same strange dish you do. We are very complex people and dating is trying to find the mate for a very complicated puzzle piece, it takes a lot of trying many pieces until you find the one that matches.
Approach.
Now, having lived in 10 countries and being raised in Southern California, I can tell you this: we Californians are obsessed with appearance and image. Everyone wants to be cool, sexy and rich. However we can’t all be. So, shunning a facade and phony image can allow the other person to see the true you, sooner. Besides, you can only put up a fake you for so long.
So, if you are only looking for a one night stand, great. But the sooner you can connect with the real you and let the other person feel comfortable letting their true side out, the sooner you can see if there’s a real match. Believe me, there’s tons of temptation to act the part. However, if you get plenty of dates, there’s no need to do this. How do you get plenty of dates? Well, stay tuned, we will be showing you that too.
So, its up to you, of course, how you behave on a first date but, if you are afraid the person you are on a date with doesn’t think you are cool, rich or sexy enough, do you really want to go out for more dates with them? Instead, move on and look for someone who likes you for what you REALLY are.
Come back next week.
So, stay tuned for next week’s newsletter when we go into depth into approach and, more importantly tips on how to get more and better dates. Good luck!
Pulque

Downtown San Diego
San Diego, California, USA – December 5, 2008- San Diego is changing. Once a city interesting only to military, retirees and RV vacationers it has transformed itself into a bustling city and major convention and tourist destination. As far as singles are concerned, the development of its Downtown, in particular the Gaslamp Quarter Historic District or ‘Gaslamp’ has put it on the international map for party goers, nightlife enthusiasts and, yes, singles. Owing to its compact layout and lively nature, some have even dubbed it the “New Orleans of the West”
A Singles Mecca - without the pilgrimage
As the Travel Dating Network is based out of San Diego, we will begin a series of articles on where the singles crowd (if there is one) goes, what they do, and where youcan go as a traveling single. Keep in mind, San Diego is home to many military inhabitants and other highly-mobile residents (nurses, consultants, flight attendants etc.) and of course, tourists. What’s more, its proximity (10 miles) to the International Border (the world’s busiest) with Tijuana, Mexico and a driving gateway to Latin America, it sees many short-term and commuting visitors as well. Let’s also not forget the juggernaut looming just beyond the horizon: Los Angeles with its 12 million plus, urban captives.
In a nutshell, San Diego is a travel dating mecca. In fact when you venture out into the Gaslamp (the best area for finding a partner) you will see a blend of locals, tourists, recent arrivals and commuters from LA and TJ on any given day or night. And its the nights, especially the weekend nights, that make it a great spot to check out.
The Gaslamp – San Diego’s party central
Ok, so let’s get right into it. What’s the best place to meet someone quick, fast and easy? The Gaslamp on a Friday or Saturday night. There are single (and intoxicated) men and women all over the place (literally). If you don’t want to grab a passerby, try Whiskey Girl, Henry’s Pub (also full on Monday nights) or Johhny Love’s all walking on the west side of 5th avenue just northof the corner with Market. They will appear in this order as you walk north with a few restaurants in-between. This is the heart of the Gaslamp and the only place there actually still are gas lamps, all 4 of them! These are all club/ bars with DJ’s spinning hip-hop,R&B and old school dance music. If you want to talk instead of dance, all three have an outside patio where you can try your lines out on one or many liquored patrons at a shot.
And what if a classier club for dancing is more your speed? Envy at The Ivy Hotel (also Thursdays), Stingaree, On Broadway or the W might be more your speed. Also Woodstock (the club upstairs on the balcony) or Sweetwater (downstairs) at the Hard Rock Hotel are classy and house a large amount of singles. These all will likely lighten your wallet $20, or so, to get in and even more for a round of drinks; so be prepared to spend. However, these also are the trendiest clubs, with the best dressed guests. There are numerous other clubs in the area and just walking around they will easily appear to the naked eye, especially walking up 5th Ave. towards Broadway.

How to save a few bucks and still boogie down
Two clubs worth mentioning as they don’t fit in with the last ones due to the fact that they are very economical. One is the Red C Lounge on Fifth Ave just north of F St. Its hard to see except for the red “C” on the awning. It is literally ‘underground’ and plays Euro house, old school, hip-hop and a very eclectic mix of dance tunes. Nearly everyone in there is there to dance and it is very dark, which lends it self to anonymity and thus easier encounters. We mention it because it is a more casual place but with no cover charge ever and well drinks at only $3 before 11pm, so it’s a local favorite to warm up with drinks and dancing at low cost.
The other is not dance hall but a bar, and a dive bar at that. Put away your passport, this is probably the closest thing you will find to a Tjuana bar this side of the actual border. The Star Bar (Yelp review) bills its self as one of the top 10 dive bars in the country and its very cheap drinks, tacky decor, blaring jukebox and non-chalant clientele seem to cement its claim to fame. While looking dodgy, it’s actually quite safe and its pool table, long bar and friendly Asian barmaids keep pulling ‘em in. This is a good place to take a break from the Gaslamp’s high-brow scene and, in combination with the Red C, facilitate a dirt-cheap, singles night out.
About hooking-up in the Gaslamp
A word to the wise. There are a lot of lookie-loo’s here. In some places, a lot of patrons have significant others or spouses and are only looking for a fun night out. So, if you are serious, its good to ask someone right up front, so you know where you stand. Additionally, more ho0king-up occurs later on in the evening, as everyone gets progressively more hammered. So, just because you don’t meet someone early in a club, don’t rule out meeting someone later after clubs close or even at the taxi stand, bus or trolley stop. Oh, and more one thing, have a designated driver as everything is within walking (stumbling) distance.
There are many other clubs in the Gaslamp to meet singles and other places in San Diego, too. Stay tuned as we will tell you about the best crawl in the Gaslamp in chronological sequence in order to optimize you meeting someone. Good luck!

How to get a date on Waikiki or any other beach
Honolulu, Hawaii – Dec 4, 2008. According to our sources, Waikiki beach has to be one of the easiest places to meet someone single women to date. Our undercover surfer agent named Pulque, who grew up nearby, says:
“A lot of people wait till night to go out and meet people in the clubs. This is pretty easy too, as everyone who comes to Waikiki single, and goes to a club at night, is out for some sort of fun. However, if you are looking for some one longer than a one night stand, or a nearly certain way to meet someone that you know you will get along with, there is a better way.”
Our man Pulque says that, for guys, the solution is free and simple: just walk down the beach and look for a gal you like the looks of and then talk to her. There is a method to doing this that he has worked out over the years that he claims makes his success rate very high. Here it is:
First, he says, is decide what you are looking for and make your chat geared toward that. For example, if you want to go to a club with her in the evening (like a date) and see how things go, then that is the best way to get results. Why? because later in the evening, when you meet to go out, its like you know each other and its easier to get to know each other even better and have fun.
Pulque says he sometimes if he really wants to meet someone for sure, he makes several dates by walking all the way from Kapahulu St. to Fort Derussy along the beach (about 1/2 mile). ” Hey, its great exercise and you will see hundreds of wahines (gals) along there and talk to about ten, depending on you”. From there, he says, “you can get five dates or so for over the next few days and from those five dates, something should happen or you check your aftershave and breathmints, just be sure you have good sunscreen for that walk!”
The technique he uses is to make sure the gal is alone before you start talking. “Don’t just jump at any gal, be like Bond, James Bond. Look at her first, if you see an empty towel next to her or a pair of big flip flops, she is probably with someone in the water. That may be another female or a male so look at the accessories. Also, sometimes if you are slick you can tell where she is from before you walk up. If she has a lot of local stuff (newspapers, shopping bags, food) probably she’s a kama’aina (local) and your chances are less. If she is very untanned and has all kinds of (tourist) stuff from Waikiki is with her, she’s probably a tourist. Then, once you decide to spring into action, forget about everyone around you seeing you- who cares what everyone else around her thinks, just do it!”.
According to Pulque, a witty line is lame. “If you come on with some tacky pick-up line, you seem like you do this a lot or have premeditated it. Which is the case, but you dont want to give this away! You want her to think you were taken by her on your way somewhere else. So use something natural like ” Wow, I was walking to Fort Derussy for a swim and I couldn’t help but notice you and wonder ‘why is such a pretty lady in Waikiki all by herself ‘?. Are you on vacation or do you live here? Then if she says ‘on vacation’ then ask her if its her first time, where she is from, etc. Strike up a conversation. If she tells you to get lost then, forget about her, move on to someone else further down the beach”.

Kapahulu St. pier
“One thing is nearly certain; you will get a date eventually. But most likely, if you are sincere, smile, don’t have bad breath or an aloha shirt on, you probably will get a lot of dates. Just be sure to be nice, and don’t ask to sit down, just do it while you are talking. Try it over your stay in Waikiki or wherever you are and with practice you will be able to read their reactions to you and how to pace the chat and know when to ask for her number”.
“Once you are chatting , gauge her response. Don’t talk about yourself too much, find out about her” (for more info about talking to women, see our interview with Pulque on this subject in a later post). “Then just go for it: ‘Hey since we are both here single in Waikiki, how about I invite you to (any club) and we have a drink and a dance? Then, we can check out the scene together’! Then, shut up, and see what she says. If no, you can try a different angle or night. If no again, thank her, say good bye and go move on and keep walking. If you do this from Kapahulu to Ft. D, and you do this with ten gals you will get 5-10 dates depending how good at chatting, or how good you look, period.
Just remember, either get a mobile phone number (and ring it right there and add her number) or get a hotel name and room number and /or last name. Don’t have her meet you somewhere, or have her call you without these: you will be waiting a long time! Also, don’t sit around talking too long unless you really have a good vibe going, you can meet more walking down further, and you will see her later on anyway. However, read the scene, if you really feel chemistry, go ask her for a swim right now and change the surroundings a little, maybe you are luckier than you think! When you meet at night, be nice, be interesting and have fun!”
Pulque has tried this on beaches all over the world with success but he says none is easier than Waikiki. Look forward to our interview with him for guys on how to talk make small talk with women, coming up in less than a week.
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HONOLULU, HAWAI’I – Oct. 15, 2008.
GlobalSingles.TV (now known as Travel Dating Network.com) transmits local Waikiki and Maui, Hawai’i dating hotspots on the air in San Diego. In conjunction with The San Diego Dating Coach – Ms. Deanna Lorraine, Travel Dating Network.com reported on the air its findings of the hottest singles spots in Waikiki and Maui. Following a weeks research with interviewing singles in Waikiki and on the scene findings in Hana, Kihei and Pa’ia, Maui. Travel Dating Network.com reporter at large, Daryl Hiro, brodcast his report on AM1000 KCEO on Ms. Lorraine’s show. This was the first in an ongoing series of on the ground reports of where the best places to find a date or social dating scene might be found. |
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San Diego, CA, USA. Oct. 23, 2008 - We are pleased to bring TravelDatingNetwork.com, an online, on-demand TV station and Web portal dedicated to dating worldwide. By presenting fresh aspects of dating in a unique format, this channel reminds you there can be more to dating than the gals or guys down the street, the people at work, or the singles at the local clubs. Whether you date someone abroad on line or by traveling to foreign locales, we bring you the scoop on how to make the entire singles world your oyster (ostión / huître / kaki / perlemusling)! |
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Travel Dating Network.com – Puerto Vallarta, Jalisco, Mexico- The jewel of Jalisco state, is known for its down-home, easy Mexico feel and its unpretentious, old town sector known as Viejo VallartaThis area was the one time haunt of Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton during and after the filming of Director John Huston’s 1962 classic, The Night of the Iguana.
While most of the movie was filmed in a picturesque cove down the coast called Mismaloya, the off-screen goings on centered around the area where the Cuale river slices the old town in two on its way to a popular beach called Playa de los Muertos.This area tends to be quite bohemian and gives you the true feel of this highly-charismatic tropical enclave. The humid breeze wafts the aroma of butter-basted, BBQ marlin-on-a-stick and freshly-halved green coconuts among other exotic scents to your nostrils. While these delicacies may not suit more delicate digestive systems, thcan induce hearty salivation nonetheless.
Modern Puerto Vallarta is an eclectic mix of upwardly-mobile, inner-city Mexicans, retired Americans / Canadians, locally-born nationals and sun-burnt vacationers (including stiff doses of newlyweds)
A Lively Singles Scene
While strolling the many cobblestone streets Downtown, we spied clumps of single Canadians, Americans and Mexicans enjoying the nightlife. While couples were the overall majority, the singles came out on weekends in droves. We recommend that, if you want to meet people, go to the restaurant/bar places like Andale, Carlos O’Brian, or Zetai that see the “dinner and drinks” crowd getting into the mood and making plans for later.
For sizzling dance action, Mandala is the busiest club, but the nearby Zoo, and Hilo are darker and more intimate. They are less the “grandstand” type clubs where everyone has a crow’s nest view of you hitting on–or being hit on by–the booze-soaked patrons.
Unfortunately, Christine’s in the Krystal, in the Hotel Zone–which formerly was a very good spot–was painfully slow the days we went there. By contrast, we saw droves of singles walking the Malecón or Boardwalk heading for a night out on the weekend.
The week was a bit slower with the Mandala, Zoo, Hilo triplet the most active clubs for singles. However, if you like salsa dancing, La Bodequita del Medio, with its Cuban theme, is a great place to meet Mexican singles and sip minty mojitos.
Lady travelers aplenty
As far as single, North American women were concerned, most traveled in groups of two or more. Single women exploring Vallarta alone related to us that–as long as they followed prudent travel measures—they felt comfortable in Vallarta owing to its small town ambiance. We met a few that said they were having a great time with no shortage of men chatting them up, most quite harmlessly.
Almost all the singles action was Downtown. The Hotel Zone, Nuevo Vallarta and the newer Riviera Nayarit, while clean, modern and very safe, are much more geared to couples. So, if you want to meet others, we recommend you stay right in town or be prepared to pay to taxis to and from town. As far as the dating scene goes Downtown most singles were reveling in the abundance of other singles.
While it has grown a lot, Vallarta still has a very Mexican, small-town resort feeling that you don’t sense in Cancun, Acapulco, or Mazatlán. It is probably for this reason it is the top destination in Mexico.
Affable Locals
Late nights and on weekends, the local Mexican residents were the overwhelming majority. One interesting note, the locals speak English to a larger degree than Mexican nationals from other cities. So, if even if your Spanish is broken or defunct, you still stand a good chance of meeting an attractive Mexican man or woman as they are quite used to the tourists and usually enjoy making new friends.
Overall, we recommend Puerto Vallarta as a good place for a first visit to Mexico. With its lush verdant hills, bath water-warm ocean and small town charm, it whets your appetite for more things truly Mexican. And, if you do find a date, you would be hard pressed to find a more romantic spot.

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Honolulu, Hawai’i USA. Oct. 23, 2008 - We are pleased to bring TravelDatingNetwork.com, an online, on-demand TV station and Web portal dedicated to dating worldwide.
By presenting fresh aspects of dating in a unique format, this channel reminds you there can be more to dating than the gals or guys down the street, the people at work, or the singles at the local clubs.
Whether you date someone abroad on line or by traveling to foreign locales, we bring you the scoop on how to make the entire singles world your oyster (ostión / huître / kaki / perlemusling)!